PORN IS BETTER THAN SEX – “DON JON” by Joseph Gordon-Levitt (2013) film review

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Joseph Gordon-Levitt has written and directed his first feature movie. Said to be Comedy, Drama, Romance – well, it has porn, sex and maybe the real love in it. But even more important: feelings.

It is more a character study of a lonely young man, who is porn addicted, just like most young men nowadays. The interesting thing is, that Gordon-Levitt plays this role himself and really finds the perfect hot sexy girl (little overrated, but still a really good catch for the not that realistic written character: Scarlett Johansson). She wants a perfect guy, she wants to control him, even train him – with sexiness just as a woman these days has to be – and that is all that he wants, for he wants a perfect object for himself.

After all porn is always better than even the great sex with the perfect sexy Scarlett. So the young guy thinks porn is the answer to everything of a good free feeling, sex is more a habit and love is something no one quite cares about.

It is not a Romance, not a Romantic Comedy, not a Drama-Drama, because they brake up after he lied about not watching Porn anymore. There is no romance. They split and won’t get back together, just like in real life when you notice that there is no connection at all – besides lies and sex.
He finds Juliette Moore, a pot-smoking, a little bit neurotic but quite sage widow. First completely averse to her, he finds himself in her car “making love” to her. She gets him more and more into his own thinking until he realizes, that porn is not the real thing in life.

Sex can be fulfilled with feelings.
Sex CAN be connected with LOVE. There can be LOVE.

Maybe from a guy’s point of view, this is a Love Story. He finds the “real” girl, he can have sex with and love her. Means: accept her as a human being rather than an every-touch-moaning object that he watches on screen on down-under close-ups. Maybe this is LOVE for a guy. To let himself fall in sex, forget about himself, feel the partner, accept the partner and the live situation.

The movie shows three characters in their SEX/LOVE behaviors and point of views and especially a guy, who finally learns the difference between and connection of BODY/SOUL. Don Jon will give you some idea what true emotional intimacy or a loving, sexual relationship is all about.

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